Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of girls don’t have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage girls widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something boys do, but girls don’t, can’t, or shouldn’t. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young women to expect they’ll begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with a man (whether or not they’re even interested in sex with men). Nearly all teen boys, on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.

Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. (via feministhistorian)

I don’t know if this is our cue to talk about our own experiences but - um, I figured out how to masturbate and even have an orgasm entirely on my own, at a relatively early age for girls, and I seriously seriously seriously thought I was the only one who did it. For the longest time. I didn’t really know it was a thing that people did. I thought it was something I made up and I wasn’t supposed to do it until I had a boyfriend to do it for me, so I had to keep it a big secret.

Which is, in retrospect, bonkers. And sad. We should be telling girls that it’s normal and healthy and awesome to touch themselves and not leave them to figure it all out on their own.

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