karnythia:

soydulcedeleche:

peecharrific:

karnythia:

I just had a convo with a parent at my son’s school about how she has to straighten her hair to keep her job. Like her white boss actually came to her & said her kinky hair is not professional enough. I told her what I could about resources for fighting back, but we’re in an at-will state & she’s a black single mom. I doubt she’ll try to fight it since I’m sure she doesn’t have the resources to be out of work & in any kind of protracted legal battle. Today is not a day to talk to me about white privilege or demand that black women be nicer to people who just want to learn/touch our hair/make demands about our bodies. I might make you cry.

i worked in a corporate setting for almost a year. during that time i went from wearing a relaxed faux hawk with a thick fuschia strip in the front (which was fine - he told me it was cute! all the time! your hair looks so cute!) to wearing senegalese twists (all black). my GM told me i looked like raggedy ann, proceeded to call me Raggedy instead of my name, and told me after a few weeks it “isn’t funny anymore” and that i needed to change my hair if i wanted to be seen as professional (read: if i wanted to keep my job).

the hair struggle for single black women is real. and don’t even think about lawsuits, nobody has the time or money to do something like that. so you let them treat you like shit, you shuck and you jive as hard as you can and keep hoping the paychecks cash.

positive thoughts go out to her and you.

the bolded is the saddest part. we really dont have a choice usually but to comply to their racist shit.

This is part of why I get so pissed off when white people want to touch my hair or ask me invasive ass questions about how I care for it. If you really want to do something about this hair you find so fascinating? Stop acting like it isn’t legitimate unless it looks like yours. Respect the reality of our bodies & then maybe we can talk about sharing it with you.